Some parents struggle with the idea of divorce. They know that they are unhappy in their personal marital relationship. They would like to end that relationship.
But they are concerned about the impact a divorce is going to have on their children. For instance, there are those who think that a divorce is always a negative event and claim that they will stay together for the kids. They view this as a personal sacrifice, putting the children first even if they have to give up their own happiness.
Divorce may be better
If you find yourself in this position, it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique. Divorce is not always worse for the children, nor is it always better. It really depends on the specific situation that the children are in.
Overall, some researchers suggest that parents should just consider conflict levels. If children are living in a home where they are exposed to high levels of stress, conflict and arguing, then divorce may actually be better for them. It will give them a better home life if they can be removed from this environment.
Additionally, the major negative side of a divorce – for children – is often that they aren’t as involved with both parents. So two parents who are focused on staying involved with their kids, even after a divorce, can provide for a healthy and happy upbringing.
Setting up the custody plan
If you are getting divorced and you want to put your children first, you need the right custody plan. Consider your legal options carefully as you move forward.