Parents who are divorced have to think about the days when the children will transition from one parent’s house to the other parent’s. These transition days can often be a source of stress for children because of the emotions involved.
Taking the time to plan ahead for transition days can help to reduce the stress on everyone. Remember that what works for some people may not work for others, so this must be tailored to your circumstances.
Prepare the children
Older children might be able to remember transition days or keep track of them using a digital calendar. You may have to help younger children remember when they will be with which parent. Some children prefer a countdown style but others may want to just be told the day prior.
Limit packing
Ideally, both parents will have clothes, toiletries and similar essentials at their own home. The children can then focus on only having to pack things like sports gear, school items or things they want to bring with them. This can reduce their stress considerably since they don’t have to completely pack up for every transition day.
Communicate peacefully
Transition days are already stressful enough, but parents arguing can make it even more difficult. Instead of putting kids through contentious conversations, save those for a time when they aren’t around.
Working out the terms of the parenting agreement, including transition days, is one of the most beneficial things you can do to help your children. This provides the backbone of the relationship you’ll have with your ex while you raise the children.